Demi and Miley: completely different girls?
Bryson and I were talking about this yesterday, actually. Miley Cyrus and Demi Lovato. The conversation actually began by who he thought was hotter; Miley or Demi. As expected (for Bryson's case), he liked Demi better. I then told Bryson that she had already gone to rehab for anger-management problems and an eating disorder in case he didn't already know. Then I just realised. Both girls, Miley and Demi, have made mistakes. Hey, being a celebrity or an actress or whatever is just another occupation, like how being a doctor or a lawyer is, except these people somehow get all the media attention anyway, and in the end we're all only human. Yes, they've both made mistakes. But from what I've observed, Miley and Demi have dealt with their own personal mistakes and trials in life in actually, vastly different ways. Can I even go as far as saying that their own takes on their own trials and tribulations are polar opposites? Maybe?
Demi Lovato realised that she had anger-management issues when she had physically assaulted someone in one of her concert rehearsals. She also admitted to herself and to her fans that she did have eating disorder issues. Demi realised the negative consequences her actions may have on herself and maybe even others too, and went to rehab. Miley, as many of us may know, has had many, many nude photo scandals, sex scandals, accusations of smoking marijuana, rumours of estrangement from family members etc. And from all these things that we, the public eye, have observed from her, the words she's spat out in defense are quotes such as "I make mistakes and I'm not apologising for being who I am".
For many people, this defense is effective. Yes, it's true that it's none of my business what she does, or what anyone else who I don't even know does for that matter. But knowing that she is living a life in the public eye, and trust me, she should know this fact very well, she can't avoid being seen as someone who should use the fame to set good examples. Not just to her tween Hannah Montana fans, but to just people overall. I'm not saying be perfect because no one is anyway, but when you make mistakes, learn from it. Learning mistakes doesn't make you any more human than you already are, and in fact, no one should even care if you make mistakes because everyone makes them. The bigger and more important thing is learning from mistakes. Assuming from Miley's actions, she doesn't seem to be doing that as much as she might need to. One weekend, she's smoking pot at a party. The next weekend, she does the same thing. The first time may or may not have been a mistake, but she should know herself that drugs don't exactly benefit you in the health front, so why do it again? There's kind of a small different between making mistakes and doing something out of fun or rebellion then having people judge you but you don't really care.
Now. I didn't write all this to crucify Miley and uplift Demi. It's not about those two girls. It's about how not just them two, but people in the world, deal with their lives and trials. Even without the two girls in mind, we can kind of sum up that in this case, there are two types of people in this world. Ones who will keep justifying their actions, whether right or wrong, from the quote "I don't care about what anyone else thinks but me because I'm not perfect so I'm not apologising for who I am" and the ones that go "Oh... that wasn't right and I shouldn't have done that/there really is something wrong with me and it may be better if I go do something about it, whether people care about the issue or not".
In a way, yes, you shouldn't change just because other people say so and fake yourself for others, but from what I learnt, other people do matter too. Odd to say, but they do. I can say this from the fact that I used to be like Miley. I just did what I did, whether right or wrong, according to my feelings and according to how other people treated me. If someone treated me nicely, I'd be nice. But if someone was a douche to me, I'd treat them the same. I didn't care what other people think. Yet I ended up hurting myself from it. I got a lot of beatings for it. But I learnt that in life, it's not about what other people think or what even you think about yourself. It's about doing what's truly right and wrong, despite what other people think or what you think at first.
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